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Thank you Julie for all your work to protect women and girls from male violence. This was a sobering read.

I wonder what makes some men hate women so much - and what can be done about it? Is it hate or is it just a desire to feel power over someone at any cost?

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What we really need are feminist trained police forces, forces of women and men trained in the realities of systemic male sexual lust and resentful rage for and against females and the historical mistakes made by the largely all-male (10% female) police forces in the 80s as a result of likely a big chunk of these male police being misogynists too. They were certainly snobs not valuing the lives of young prostitutes or working class girls. It's frightening to think you were so close to this monster, Julie. And so young. This misogynistic male violence must not be allowed to continue. All boys and men especially need to be better educated in the basics of cultural misogyny (woman-hate) and to realise JUST HOW MANY men (and too many women) are misogynistic, with a high percentage of those males being violently misogynistic. The actual numbers need to be much more widely known. Feminists are accused of being 'man-hating' (as I am accused by my long-estranged sons), but history abundantly shows that it is men who have actively and horrendously hated on women and paid few consequences for their violent and non-violent hate, including their burning of hundreds of thousands of accused 'witches' in Europe and the US, usually the more wealthy and clever older women, so mothers and grandmothers mostly, as well as lesbians of course, whose money the church took, as it took nuns' dowries and lives. By contrast, there is no physical evidence of women hating on men, if you can't tell my sons that. I did try but clearly failed to raise my sons to be feminist allies, but failed. I wrote a PhD on battered women who kill and the NZ justice system's failed treatment of such cases. The subject matter made all the men in my life, except the boys' father, nervous and angry. My brother took it as a personal insult, though he is not a wife-beater. I can't hate men too much when I have been married to a man for 37 years and birthed and raised two sons who I still very much love. It is their love that is in question. Arguably, women do not hate men enough. We marry our abusers and murderers all too often, that's for sure. But for those 13+ murdered women, and for ALL the other women murdered by violent misogynist cowards like Sutcliffe, we need to learn that lesson and show it by our actions in the police, parliament and beyond that we DO finally care enough about our mothers and sisters and daughters enough to fight for their right not to be beaten, stalked and violently killed on the streets - or in the home.

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