Cue in swimmer Lia Thomas and his enablers who ask the female swimmers to find somewhere else to change if they don't like being flashed by him in the women's locker room
Thank you Julie. I remember. 41 years ago. I was 12. On my way home from school. It was late autumn, a misty time of year. The leaves on the ground were no longer crisp and I was alone. I was walking through a park with a row of trees and bushes to one side. The other side was the wide expanse of the park. I heard a slight cough and rustle in the bushes. I looked and stood, like you, frozen to the spot. A man dressed in red lingerie, a bra, suspenders and stockings but no pants. He began to masturbate. He had a beard and a smile on his face that got wider as he saw my fear. I ran home. I told nobody. I have never forgotten this. It was however, my ‘initiation’ into understanding that as a female my instincts were to be trusted. That sadly, because of my sex, I was vulnerable.
Thank you Julie. This is a topic that deserves much more attention than it gets. I was flashed as a teenager on public transport. I remember trying to pretend I hadn't seen it, that it wasn't going on. If it happened to me today I would give the man a piece of my mind. Its interesting how much MTF "trans" involves this type of public exposure.
The first time it happened to me, thank goodness I was with a fearless friend who shouted angrily at the man and he ran away like a rabbit. We were both 10 and I can remember the horrified frozen shock I felt.
These stories make me feel like the problem could end in a week if we just killed men for doing it. The rest of them would knock it off in no time.
men who might decide that they'll miss a bus in the morning because they got up late, and they'll get so angry
that they decide to stalk
somebody and expose
themselves. There's not a lot of joined up thinking there it's just a way to fuel their anger." this male therapists quote says so much but the thinking is actually so joined up as to be automatic. women and children as instant repositories for male rage.
Hi Julie, my handyman started exposing himself in my home on the 31st July ‘24. I’d used him since February ‘23. I thought it was an accident and that he’d be very embarrassed ! When he worked for me again last week it happened again over the 2 days. Again I ignored it. However, I told my daughter and others who were horrified. I’m a 76 year old widow ( nearly 2 years) and certainly did not encourage this behaviour.
I can't dispute scientific research on why a man may flash women in public. And I would never do it in real life (too many damaging consequences). But I do have fantasies that even have a name: CFNM, or Clothed Female, Naked Male. And I can tell you that NONE of them are for the purpose of harming or degrading women even in the slightest way. That is a turn-off. ALL of the fantasies are to sexually enjoy my own vulnerability, shame and humiliation in the midst of the more supreme female. So, I can't help but wonder why the majority of flashers don't fit into this category. It makes me wonder if there is some politcal/social agenda to be satisfied by portraying the majority of flashers as violent assailants.
Something like this happened on the train, except he literally cornered me and was getting his genitals closer and closer to my face. It's horrifying and I managed to escape and vaguely threaten him by grabbing my pepper spray. I thankfully recovered from the shock shortly after and reported the crime. I'm just glad he didn't follow me off the train.
Cue in swimmer Lia Thomas and his enablers who ask the female swimmers to find somewhere else to change if they don't like being flashed by him in the women's locker room
Thank you Julie. I remember. 41 years ago. I was 12. On my way home from school. It was late autumn, a misty time of year. The leaves on the ground were no longer crisp and I was alone. I was walking through a park with a row of trees and bushes to one side. The other side was the wide expanse of the park. I heard a slight cough and rustle in the bushes. I looked and stood, like you, frozen to the spot. A man dressed in red lingerie, a bra, suspenders and stockings but no pants. He began to masturbate. He had a beard and a smile on his face that got wider as he saw my fear. I ran home. I told nobody. I have never forgotten this. It was however, my ‘initiation’ into understanding that as a female my instincts were to be trusted. That sadly, because of my sex, I was vulnerable.
Thank you Julie. This is a topic that deserves much more attention than it gets. I was flashed as a teenager on public transport. I remember trying to pretend I hadn't seen it, that it wasn't going on. If it happened to me today I would give the man a piece of my mind. Its interesting how much MTF "trans" involves this type of public exposure.
The first time it happened to me, thank goodness I was with a fearless friend who shouted angrily at the man and he ran away like a rabbit. We were both 10 and I can remember the horrified frozen shock I felt.
These stories make me feel like the problem could end in a week if we just killed men for doing it. The rest of them would knock it off in no time.
"I've worked with
men who might decide that they'll miss a bus in the morning because they got up late, and they'll get so angry
that they decide to stalk
somebody and expose
themselves. There's not a lot of joined up thinking there it's just a way to fuel their anger." this male therapists quote says so much but the thinking is actually so joined up as to be automatic. women and children as instant repositories for male rage.
"When men expose their genitals to females, what does it mean?"
It means they need it cut off!
Unsolicited "d*ck pix" sent via phone are also "rape from afar" and should also be criminalized.
Hi Julie, my handyman started exposing himself in my home on the 31st July ‘24. I’d used him since February ‘23. I thought it was an accident and that he’d be very embarrassed ! When he worked for me again last week it happened again over the 2 days. Again I ignored it. However, I told my daughter and others who were horrified. I’m a 76 year old widow ( nearly 2 years) and certainly did not encourage this behaviour.
Happened to me twice before I was 16, reported to police both time and nothing. Seems like not much has changed.
I can't dispute scientific research on why a man may flash women in public. And I would never do it in real life (too many damaging consequences). But I do have fantasies that even have a name: CFNM, or Clothed Female, Naked Male. And I can tell you that NONE of them are for the purpose of harming or degrading women even in the slightest way. That is a turn-off. ALL of the fantasies are to sexually enjoy my own vulnerability, shame and humiliation in the midst of the more supreme female. So, I can't help but wonder why the majority of flashers don't fit into this category. It makes me wonder if there is some politcal/social agenda to be satisfied by portraying the majority of flashers as violent assailants.
Something like this happened on the train, except he literally cornered me and was getting his genitals closer and closer to my face. It's horrifying and I managed to escape and vaguely threaten him by grabbing my pepper spray. I thankfully recovered from the shock shortly after and reported the crime. I'm just glad he didn't follow me off the train.
What is the best way to respond if you have presence of mind to do so to not give them the pleasure of being shocked ?
Libby squires murderer started off as voyeur moved to ejaculating on front doors and then killed her after rape . A clear escalation.